Burqa And Stilettos

Have you ever dated someone you thought was bat$#!% crazy or drove you absolutely nuts?  Melissa Lafsky has written a hilarious piece in the Huffington Post about the real stuff relationships are made of.  Read it here and share your thoughts.

Watch Beauty and the East’s Coverage of the Arab American Comedy Festival.

There is some seriously funny stuff here.  I applaud the comedians and the organizers for putting the show together in this polarized political environment where everyone takes themselves way too seriously.  Sometimes the best way to connect people is through comedy and to show the commonality in all of us.  Enjoy!

By Minal Bopaiah from Brevity and Wit

I recently read an eHow article titled “How to Date a Feminist” and I have to say, it’s probably the worst How-to article I’ve ever read, mainly because I wouldn’t follow their steps to date a feminist and I am one! So here’s my suggested How-to guide to dating a feminist:

1. Don’t assume that because she’s a feminist she either hates men or is trying to be like one. Instead, ask her what that term means to her. You’ll get to know her and she’ll think you’re smart for asking.

2. On the first date, avoid misogynistic humor. This usually entails not repeating anything from a Vince Vaughn movie. Or your ideas for a Vince Vaughn movie. Don’t worry–eventually you can probably get her to watch Wedding Crashers with you (although I can’t guarantee she’ll enjoy it), but don’t expect that to win her over on the first date.

3. If she mentions working for women’s rights in any way, do not disparage her efforts. Be open to seeing her perspective, even if you respectfully disagree. The key word here is respectfully. While you may think that date rape statistics are inflated, commenting that she works with liars if she’s a rape crisis counselor is not respectful (this is a true story that happened to me).

4. Read an article about women’s issues. Just one. Really, one is enough to open your eyes. It can be about anything, and chances are, there’s probably some way women’s issues combines with your profession, even if you’re in finance or construction. Plus, by reading one article, it’ll give you good date talk.

5. While I wouldn’t expect any guy to read the entire syllabus from a women’s studies course (even I skipped out on some of those readings), it may behoove you to think about what you would put on a men studies course. The greatest shame in college campuses nowadays is that women are challenged to think about their roles in the world and how to break out of stereotypes while men are not. Tell her that and it may get you some points.

6. Support her career aspirations. No wise woman is going to be all about her career. Most of them just want to enjoy family and career the way men have been for years. But being a supportive man who thinks about her career strategically and gives her sound counsel makes you a true catch and can also lead to some really great intellectual foreplay.

7. Support her personal growth. This is just sound relationship advice and not specific to feminists, or women for that matter. The key is not to be self-absorbed and to understand that there are just as many women as men aspiring for greatness–help her be the better version of yourself and she’ll probably help you do the same.

Now the only trick in all this is paying the bill. I still have no idea what the rules are on that one, and even my own preferences change. I always offer because I don’t think men should always pay, but I also think more highly of the guy who argues a bit to pay for me, not out of some antiquated notion of gender roles, but just out of kindness, the way my friend Jenna and I argued about the bill today. But that’s me. I know other feminists differ on this. The one thing I do know is that a feminist is unlikely to be the type of woman who puts out on the third date simply because you paid for 3 dinners–you’re going to have to work a bit harder than that.

I haven’t seen Four Lions yet, and and will try to get my hands on it asap, but the trailer is amusing and interesting. Four Lions by British comedian, Chris Morris, tells the story of a group of jihadists who pursue their dreams of glory. As the wheels fly off, and their competing ideologies clash, what emerges is an emotionally engaging farce.

Four Lions is based on three years of researching surveillance materials from major trials, and meetings with everyone from imams to ex-mujahedeen. Four Lions goes beyond seeing these young men as alien or evil, instead, it portrays them as human beings.

Some people may not find it funny. The best defense is a better offense and nothing is better than humor, if it’s done well. Frankly, the heated debates, the blame games, and the angry tirades are not working, but only making people and attitudes more polarized. Why not try something new to show the absurdity of it all?

If anyone has seen this, I’d love to hear your opinions.